Is communication development destroying relationships?

Communicating has never been so easy. One can contact anyone at anytime as everyone got a mobile phone. But do you really know that it is also responsible for many fights and break ups. 

Until the 60’s, people had to travel for hours to talk even if the person is in the same city. But after the 60’s, people got the fixed telephones. But now we have a phone which we can carry anywhere. Today, if we heard that someone is talking or doing something against us, then we will call him or her and fight in the phone. But in those days people had to travel to speak to them and that time gap helps them a lot. Generally people should take some time before they argue with someone but thanks to the advanced technology we don’t like to waste our time in thinking. The time allow people to think a lot like whether what we heard can be right or wrong, Is he or she really did that or what he or she has done is right or wrong and about how to deal with it without hurting him or her. When you deal with any problem without thinking, then you will definitely screw it up and later will regret for it. 

When you talk in phone you cannot understand everything he or she wanted to say as you will not let him or her to talk.

Another important problem in dealing with any problem over phone is that, he or she cannot express everything. Communication not only includes language and talking, but it also body language, the expression we see directly. Sometimes we cannot explain everything in words. Humans are using non verbal, gestures and other kinds of communication from thousands of years and all the animals are using it from millions of years. It is really important to talk directly instead of talking over phone.

How to choose your life partner

I was getting a lot emails from people asking to write on this topic. It is an important topic but there are no universal points to describe this topic. It depends on individual. So as I said in my other blog, for better result contact me and tell me about you. But I didn’t expect hundreds of emails. It’s good that people really care about themselves. Everyone who wants to know can contact me. But for those who don’t like to ask personally, these are some steps to follow.

Selecting the right person to share the rest of your life is an important step for everyone. But most of us don’t do it in the right way and it results in fight and then separation. There can be many reasons for the fight and separation but if he/she would have selected the right person for his or her life then he or she wouldn’t faced that problem. Your fight not only affects you, but it also affects your kids and their future. That doesn’t help them in becoming a good person in the society. So, selecting the right person is not only good for you, but it is also good for the future generation and the society.

There is no universal set of characters or features to find a perfect person. It differs from person to person. So I am going to tell you about how to select your future spouse, not what you should look for. 

Find similarities and differences. You should not select either a person who completely matches you or a person who is completely opposite to you. In some cases, he or she should be opposite to you and in some cases he or she should be like you. For example, in every family either the wife or the husband should be frugal and other one generous. Both of you should have common things like, if you like to travel a lot and enjoy your weekends to some adventures place but your spouse like to spend his or her time in home. There are dozens of features to look for. 

Another important thing is to be honest to you.  People select their life partner is like kids select a toy. Kids don’t look at the disadvantages of the product. Sometimes a single feature of the product covers all the disadvantages. We stick with the feature to fool ourselves and think of all other points as useless. Just like the smokers. The smokers know that smoking will kill them but still they can’t quit it. 

Be honest to yourself and ask yourself about what do you like about him or her and what you don’t like about him or her. The main problem in love and relationship is that, you don’t see the negative things about him or her. You know about his or her negative feature but you try to cheat yourself and think that it’s not important. That’s why love is blind. It is not blind because the person in love can’t see but it is blind because they can’t think. It don’t cover your eye, it covers your mind. 

Another way to know is by asking someone who cares about you. Ask your family and friends. I prefer to ask your parents. They are the people who know more about us than any other person. They will tell you about what kind of person can manage his or her life with you. 

Another simple way to know whether you can live a happy life with him or her is by comparing him or her. You should compare each of his or her character with someone you know. No two people are similar so compare with different people. For example, if he or she is short tempered, lazy and car lover. Then look for any of your friends or family members who are short tempered and think on how to you behave when they are angry. Do this with his or her other characters and get a result by combining all of his or her characters.

Family and Relationship Life

 Family is the most beautiful thing one can get. Everyone has someone whom he/she loves more than himself/herself. Everyone is a good person to someone. Even your enemy is a good person to someone. As I say, your life will be happy if you think it is happy.

I don’t fight with any person, even if it’s his/her mistake. I think of them as a person from my family. I give a smile and move on. I am not the richest person neither do I have any special talent but I can assure you that I am happier than many rich and famous people.

My family consists of my mom, dad, sister, sister’s husband, little nephew, many uncles, aunts, cousins and most importantly me.

They are not the only people I have in my family. I have many people whom I call as my brothers and sisters. That feels good as it makes me feel that everyone around me is my family. Also, I treat the parents of my friends, other brothers and sisters as my own parents. I feel like the happiest person on this planet who is surrounded by a big family.

If you want to be a part of my family, then I will be happy to welcome you to my family. I don’t care about you color, region or age. I don’t care whether you are rich or poor. All I want is a true person to be a part of my family.

My life is happy even though I don’t have a family of my kind. Each and everyone in my family are different. None of us have a similar likes but we all live together, love each other and most importantly sacrifice our interest for others whenever possible.

Sacrifice is the most important part of a family life. The happiest movement of my life is to see my family happier and if I don’t mind I if need to sacrifice my happiness for it. Helping each and everyone in my family makes me happy.

I try to help my mom in kitchen whenever possible and help my dad with his works. Well I never helped my sister much. We always used to fight with each other until her marriage (but she always cared for me). But now I really miss her, her husband and her beautiful son as they live in another city. And I missed all of them for four long years when I was in college. But now I am happy because I live with my parents from the past 6 months since my graduation. You can call me anything as I am 24 years old and living with parents, but I am happier than others of my age.

Once again, I would love to welcome anyone who wants to be a part of my family.

Famly behind every successful nation

I don’t know about how many successful people have family as the reason for their successful life. But a country with good families will be on top in the world. We don’t give importance to our family. It is the important reason for the fallout of our country. It may look illogical but it’s true. All the countries where people have good family life have successful life. By success I don’t mean to earn money and become the richest person in the world. Even if you were rich, you are a failure if you lose your money in the recession.

During 2007-08, when the entire world was under recession, there were some countries which were less affected. If you check them, you will realize that the family and cultural habits were the main reason for their country to survive the recession. I have been in many countries and lived with many families in all the countries. I realized that our country and families are missing many things in which they are perfect. Quite frankly we are missing the family itself. High divorce rate, single parenting, remarriages etc is high in our country. I mean come on what’s happening in our country.

They live a perfect family life. I have seen many extended families in some countries. I was surprised to see that people still live in extended family and in some places I was offered to spend some time with their families and be a part of the family for few days. Believe me or not, it was an awesome experience to live in an extended family. Can you imagine yourself living in an extended family where you can see everyone every day? They all love and care for each other. Another important thing I liked in some places is that people call outside people (other than their family) with some relationship like if people are of your parents age they call them uncle and aunt and if people are of your age then they call as brother and sister. This thing not only makes a strong family but also builds a strong society and strong nation.

We Americans aren’t close to our family. Many of us hardly meet our family once in a year. I don’t know how many of you go to family reunion. Those things are rare nowadays. People don’t get time to meet their family. We need to change a lot.

Failure: A good teacher

It may be a game. But many of us have the same situation in real

You can’t live a perfect life. Trust me; you will hate your life if it’s perfect. A perfect life will be boring. If you win throughout your life, then a small failure can collapse you totally. But for people who failed don’t care about it. But the truth is everyone fail somewhere in their life. Failure teaches a lot of things.

 Every famous person on earth has failed in something. The difference between them and rest of the people is that, they realized their failure, understood where they were wrong, consider it as an experience and continue their work. But others get disappointed and feel that they aren’t the best and they can’t do it.

There are people who failed several times in their life but never gave up and proved that they are the best. Everyone got the same stuff in their head, the only think matters is how you use it. Think differently, you can change your life.

Learn from your mistakes. Try again and again to achieve success in your life. Check out the history, all the great people you know learned from their mistakes. Read the biography of any person you like. You will realize no one on earth has succeeded in everything they tried in the very first time.

The first thing you need to do when you fail is to think where you have done a mistake and start it again. It’s impossible to live a life without failing. Many people, who pretend as if they never failed, are just creating an impression in the public that they never faced the failure. But the truth is they did.

If you want to win big, you must fail. And remember, never ever give up. Millions of people try achieving a task but all fails. Only few people try again and win. Now it’s up to you. Do you want to be one in a million or one among the million?  

Money is not everything

People work hard to make money. But at last they forget the main purpose for which they make money. People work in office, in home and even on the way from office to home. At first people start making money to enjoy their life but later we forget to enjoy our life and get busy in making money.

There are many things we missed in our life because we are so busy in making money. How many of us spend at least 10 hours a week with our family. For some people spending 10 hours is impossible and some of them consider it to be waste of time.

People work 24 hours and a day 7 days a week to earn thousands of dollars. We Americans neither save the money nor we spent it properly. That’s another main reason for the current position of our country. Money isn’t everything in life. It can’t give you everything.

Some of us worry a lot for money. It’s just a piece of paper created by our ancestors to ease our work. But now it’s ruling the world. Life will be good until we control the money. But life will be worse if money controls the people. Sometimes I feel that we don’t own money but the money owns us.

The worst part of it is that it makes many people feel that life is nothing without it. I don’t understand why people commit suicide because they don’t have money. Many people committed suicide for bankruptcy.

Remember that human lived for thousands of without money and humans are using money only from few centuries. There are billions of other creatures (other than human beings) in the world living now without money and we are humans, we are intelligent creatures. We can live without it too.

I don’t say that money is nothing; I just say that money is not everything. It’s just a part of our normal life. It’s an important thing in our life. But we can live without it.I too spend a lot of time and work hard to make money but I spend more time with my family and in enjoying my time.

Couple Married for 72 years dies holding hands

A couple  who was married for 72 long years died last week holding each others hands. Gordon, 94 and Norma Yeager, 90 lived a perfect life together. The best love story I ever heard. I read and saw many stories and movies about true love but those were fictional but this is for real. We should learn something from them.

They did everything together. "They just loved being together. Everybody argues once in awhile, but they still, he said 'I have to stick around. I can't go until she does because I have to stay here for her and she would say the same thing,'" said Dennis Yeager, younger son of the couple.


Dennis Yeager said the couple left home last Wednesday to go into town, but they didn't make it.

At the intersection of Highway 30 and Jessup Avenue just west of Marshalltown, state troopers said Gordon pulled in front of an oncoming car. The Iowa State Patrol crash report said the other driver attempted to avoid the crash but was unable to stop in time.

"I rushed from Des Moines where I was working and saw them in the hospital," said Dennis Yeager.

Yeager Family

 In the intensive care unit of Marshalltown's hospital, nurses knew not to separate Gordon and Norma.

"They brought them in the same room in intensive care and put them together -- and they were holding hands in ICU. They were not really responsive," said Dennis Yeager.

Gordon died at 3:38 p.m. holding hands with his wife as the family they built surrounded them.

"It was really strange, they were holding hands, and dad stopped breathing but I couldn't figure out what was going on because the heart monitor was still going," said Dennis Yeager. "But we were like, he isn't breathing. How does he still have a heart beat? The nurse checked and said that's because they were holding hands and it's going through them. Her heart was beating through him and picking it up."

"They were still getting her heartbeat through him," said Donna Sheets.

Yeager Family

At 4:38 p.m., exactly one hour after Gordon died, Norma passed too.
Yeager Family

"Neither one of them would've wanted to be without each other. I couldn't figure out how it was going to work," said Donna Sheets. "We were very blessed, honestly, that they went this way."

"They just loved being together," said Dennis Yeager.

At their funeral on Monday, Norma and Gordon held hands in their casket. Family said they will be cremated and their ashes mixed together.

Its unbelievable for many of us but its true. 72 years is a long period. This is a perfect example for anyone who wants to live a happy and perfect life. Its not a sad ending. Its the best end one can ever have.